Comments for Cynthia 718 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com Writing from Brooklyn, New York about urban parenting. Tue, 11 Aug 2009 19:51:15 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on About me by brian http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/about/#comment-42 brian Tue, 11 Aug 2009 19:51:15 +0000 #comment-42 Cynthia, NY City Explorers is doing a free event this Friday (8/14) - morning and afternoon. The afternoon session is in Prospect Heights (it's going to be four great classes and a BBQ). Can I send you info? Please give me the best e-mail? Thank you, Brian Kaplan Cynthia,

NY City Explorers is doing a free event this Friday (8/14) – morning and afternoon. The afternoon session is in Prospect Heights (it’s going to be four great classes and a BBQ). Can I send you info? Please give me the best e-mail?

Thank you,

Brian Kaplan

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by Linda Miller, the girl Michael married http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-38 Linda Miller, the girl Michael married Sat, 18 Jul 2009 00:46:58 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-38 I loved reading your thoughts and comments. While all of your sentiments about being a SAHM ring true, I couldn't help feeling a sadness that resonated from your words. As I have said on a few other blogs, I believe as Moms we are ofen the glue that keeps the family engine running. I know I was. What I learned through my own journey with Michael is that while I was doing what was necessary at the time, I gave up on the battle to be heard and understood as a SAHM. I knew I was doing the best thing for my family, but I now know that I should have demanded those very difficult and wrenching conversations that you so appriately talked of. Because my well being as a "self" was important regardless of what stress Michael was going through. So, it is my hope that you fight for finding what brings the sparkle back to your eyes while also doing what needs to be done...because you deserve it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and I wish you the best. Kind Regards, Linda I loved reading your thoughts and comments. While all of your sentiments about being a SAHM ring true, I couldn’t help feeling a sadness that resonated from your words. As I have said on a few other blogs, I believe as Moms we are ofen the glue that keeps the family engine running. I know I was. What I learned through my own journey with Michael is that while I was doing what was necessary at the time, I gave up on the battle to be heard and understood as a SAHM. I knew I was doing the best thing for my family, but I now know that I should have demanded those very difficult and wrenching conversations that you so appriately talked of. Because my well being as a “self” was important regardless of what stress Michael was going through. So, it is my hope that you fight for finding what brings the sparkle back to your eyes while also doing what needs to be done…because you deserve it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and I wish you the best. Kind Regards, Linda

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by cynthia718 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-37 cynthia718 Fri, 17 Jul 2009 23:46:27 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-37 it's definitely worth letting go a little when getting help is on the line. it’s definitely worth letting go a little when getting help is on the line.

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by melanie http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-36 melanie Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:07:32 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-36 my husband has been gracious enough to give me saturday mornings "off" to do work at the computer. of course, this means biting my tongue when he doesn't do things my way. thankfully, the kids keep him informed when he isn't doing things "the way mommy does it"! my husband has been gracious enough to give me saturday mornings “off” to do work at the computer. of course, this means biting my tongue when he doesn’t do things my way. thankfully, the kids keep him informed when he isn’t doing things “the way mommy does it”!

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by Jennifer/Connect with your Teens http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-35 Jennifer/Connect with your Teens Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:18:10 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-35 Now that my children are college/adults, I do see a big result of being pretty much solely responsible for our sons. I am now much closer to them than my husband is. The reason is because I know much more about them. I know their friends, their likes, dislikes, the courses they took, everything. My husband was around much less and just doesn't share the same knowledge and memories and commonality that I do. So it really was worth every moment of all that hard work of raising them, which, by the way, never ends. Now that my children are college/adults, I do see a big result of being pretty much solely responsible for our sons. I am now much closer to them than my husband is. The reason is because I know much more about them. I know their friends, their likes, dislikes, the courses they took, everything. My husband was around much less and just doesn’t share the same knowledge and memories and commonality that I do. So it really was worth every moment of all that hard work of raising them, which, by the way, never ends.

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by Rox http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-34 Rox Fri, 17 Jul 2009 11:23:50 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-34 You've hit the nail on the head with one thing that frustrated me a lot recently: when we're leaving the house (whether for a quick trip or for vacation), I have three people to see to: my two kids and me. Hubby has only himself to look after -- and then can get impatient while I'm gathering things. Recently, I stopped in my tracks and said, "It'd be so much easier if you'd help!" And it turns out that he was willing to -- he just didn't know "naturally" what to do. Now, when we're getting ready to go out the door, I ask him to help with shoes and coats or whatever, and everybody's happier. So if your hubby's sitting there eating a sandwich while you're running around like crazy, ask him to make you one too! (And sit down and eat it with him.) I think we moms so often forget that sometimes, we need to remember that we're part of a team -- and that every player needs a rest sometimes. You’ve hit the nail on the head with one thing that frustrated me a lot recently: when we’re leaving the house (whether for a quick trip or for vacation), I have three people to see to: my two kids and me. Hubby has only himself to look after — and then can get impatient while I’m gathering things. Recently, I stopped in my tracks and said, “It’d be so much easier if you’d help!” And it turns out that he was willing to — he just didn’t know “naturally” what to do. Now, when we’re getting ready to go out the door, I ask him to help with shoes and coats or whatever, and everybody’s happier. So if your hubby’s sitting there eating a sandwich while you’re running around like crazy, ask him to make you one too! (And sit down and eat it with him.) I think we moms so often forget that sometimes, we need to remember that we’re part of a team — and that every player needs a rest sometimes.

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by Linsey Krolik http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-33 Linsey Krolik Fri, 17 Jul 2009 06:10:46 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-33 I really agree that we never knew what it was going to be like to have kids and all this STUFF to do. Who knew? I think the applause that Miller talks about in the book as being the long-term reward for kids well-raised is big, but the little moments are huge. I'm very proud of how involved I am with my kids - even though I am a WAHM, I don't have much in the way of childcare, so I identify with the SAHMs very, very much too. Oh, and my post is all about the laundry! I really agree that we never knew what it was going to be like to have kids and all this STUFF to do. Who knew? I think the applause that Miller talks about in the book as being the long-term reward for kids well-raised is big, but the little moments are huge. I’m very proud of how involved I am with my kids – even though I am a WAHM, I don’t have much in the way of childcare, so I identify with the SAHMs very, very much too. Oh, and my post is all about the laundry!

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by Lisa http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-32 Lisa Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:36:20 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-32 Yes, sometimes I too define success as putting away clean laundry in its proper place. And it's not as easy job as it appears lol. Yes, sometimes I too define success as putting away clean laundry in its proper place. And it’s not as easy job as it appears lol.

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by bonggamom http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-31 bonggamom Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:55:20 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-31 I think this book really resonates with SAHM's because we probably sometimes look in the mirror and wonder, What Happened to the Woman I used to be? I think this book really resonates with SAHM’s because we probably sometimes look in the mirror and wonder, What Happened to the Woman I used to be?

]]> Comment on The woman you married has left the building by Stacy http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/the-woman-you-married-has-left-the-building/#comment-30 Stacy Thu, 16 Jul 2009 02:04:24 +0000 http://cynthia718.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-30 Hi there. I really like what you wrote, my post is similar, sort of. I liked the book -- Hi there. I really like what you wrote, my post is similar, sort of. I liked the book –

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